I have been thinking a lot recently about the affect our thoughts have on our lives. When you make a conscious decision to be positive, you see that positivity reflected in your life. That’s the case with any emotion! If you decide you are going to be happy then that will be true. This is something I work on every day. Some days are easier than others, depending on the circumstances. Negativity can come from anywhere and take over if we’re not careful. So it’s important to learn how to deal with negativity.
I am a positive person. I like to look for the silver lining in any situation, but that doesn’t mean that I am always successful. We all have things in our lives that really wear us down. It could be internal, external or maybe a combination of both! If I’m being completely honest, one of the biggest sources of negativity that I struggle with is this blog. Blogging has brought so much joy to my life but I would be lying if I said it was all happy thoughts. But you don’t have to be a blogger to deal with comparison, competition and doubt. Those are things that we all struggle with in any area of life. Over the last year I’ve found several ways to deal with negativity that I wanted to share with you.
Start Your Day With Gratitude – I recently started a gratitude journal. I am someone who loves to write (hence the blog) so a gratitude journal was a good fit for me. It’s the first thing I do in the morning. I wake up, make my cup of tea and sit down and write about something I am grateful for. If you don’t like to journal, then just think about what you are grateful for. Make a list in your mind and you will be amazed at how quickly you can drown out the negativity.
Share Your Appreciation – When I am feeling negative or frustrated I project. I think most people do, and usually the person we are closest to receives the brunt of the frustration. My hubby, Brian, has been on the receiving end too many times. When I’ve been angry or annoyed with him (or anyone) I take a second to think about something he does that I appreciate. These photos are a perfect example. It was incredibly hot and humid and I was very frustrated. I snapped at Brian several times until I realized how much I appreciated that he was standing there, just as hot and sweaty as I was, holding a camera, all for me.
Tune Out the Noise – If you are feeling dissatisfied about where you are because you have been comparing yourself to others, then take a step back. It could be something as simple as staying off of social media for a couple of days. When I notice myself feeling negative I take a few days off from Instagram. Just remember social media is the “highlight reel” and that no one’s life is picture perfect.
Make a Change – If you are unhappy with something that is within your control, then change it! Maybe you are struggling with body image. Instead of feeding into the negative thoughts, make an effort to do something positive. Focus on the parts of your body that you love. I have always believed that you can want to be healthier but still love your body for what it is in the moment. Being negative about yourself is never helpful.
We all have the power to make our lives more positive by learning how to deal with negativity. I wanted to be open about some of the struggles that I face with negativity, but I do make a choice everyday to not let it overpower me. xo Bryn
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